So something I’m upset about with bf...I’m not sure if this is me being hyper sensitive since I’m already looking for things...
I brought up a conversation involving how a boyfriend/girlfriend should be regarding kids. I said they need to connect with the kid not correct (which I read and agree with) and leave the discipline up to the parent. That each parent has different thresholds and rules and perspectives and just because he sees something as wrong does not mean I do, or that I want to pick that battle. For example my son wore his hoody from his sweatshirt on when we were eating in a restaurant (it was a chain restaurant that only kids and old people and stoned people like) I don’t see an issue with this. He thought it was disrespectful. My son said he was just cold. I know plenty of people that are strongly opposed to hats indoors or while eating. Me personally, I’m just glad my son is not climbing on the windowsills so I pick my battles Bf says, that my threshold is set low because of sons past behavior and he feels i am not seeing disrespectful behavior cause of that and that he feels it’s helpful to me and to son in the long term.
Anyway I brought up to him, how I am a great mother. That my son had a lot of issues and because of my dillegence and research and meetings with teahchers and social workers and establishing an IEP etc, that my son is doing great. He’s earning awards and he’s testing for gifted program. I have a great relationship with my son. Then if argument me and my son have right now is who loves each other more. Every teacher tells me how my son does not have a mean bone in his body, that he just struggles to be quiet stay in his seat etc.
BF responded to that by saying nowadays they give these service away. He would have gotten help and attention regardless. I felt like he was basically, undermining all my efforts as a parent and it really pissed me off. I feel like this could be a general pattern in him, where he focuses on all that is bad and never sees good (I know that cause I obviously struggle with the same, but so don’t impose it on my family or friends or on him) which is why I feel criticized with things in the past.
Is this me being hyper sensitive cause I was upset prior? Or something ?
