Sooo, you're telling me to move out and formalize a separation? Am I hearing you correctly?
R,
Like a good counselor, I am not here to tell you what to do just to look at your options and give my opinion.
Everything Acc wrote one and a half years ago still rings true. She has zero motivation to make your R work. Right now she is taking the path of least resistance while still keeping her options open.
Assuming nothing changes and IMO I don't think it will anytime soon. What are your options?
1. You live like you are now continuing to 180, and GAL and maybe she comes around. Maybe another OM comes along and she Bs you again. Maybe she never comes around but a friendship and security are good enough at this point in your life. 2. You file for D or full blown separation. She thanks you for doing the work for her and moves on and you co-parent together. You realize that living alone is 100 times better then living in limbo. She panics and fears losing you and now has motivation to work on the relationship. She figures out after D that the grass isn't greener and wants to recon but at this point you have moved on.
Time for MY opinion:
I have lived in limbo and it was once described on the board as "soul sucking" and that is how it felt. I am now divorced live alone and have my kids 50% of the time. I am 1,000 times happier then when I was in limbo. As Acc said, I don't completely regret it because I lived with my kids for another 2.5 years full time. Having said that, I will NEVER again in my life try to be a relationship with someone doesn't want to be with me.
