I guess I don't understand the "separating" thing when she isn't really separating and moving out. I'd ask her to move out and move further away if she truly wants to separate. It's obvious this "separation" thing is so she can stop feeling bad about seeing the OM. But don't beat her up over it (you've had your infidelities, plus it won't help you one bit).
Originally Posted by AnthonyA
I am waiting to talk to the L to see what my options can be.
As far as legal options I don't think you have any control over this.
Originally Posted by AnthonyA
The other issue is her parents. She will not talk to her parents but her dad keeps calling me. He is a retired divorce attorney. He is very controlling and is worried on the impact this could have on the children. I told him I can't make her change her. This is all her decision. He said that she has only had a couple IC appointments and to give her time. I don't think the IC is going to help her see the light. But he keeps telling me to eat sh*t sandwiches and just deal. However, that is not what I want.
Are you going to divorce her over this? I don't see you as being ready to do that, and you did this too, although it seems yours was more physical and hers is more emotional - but that's the way men and women are a lot of times. So if you aren't going to divorce her, you pretty much are going to eat poo sandwiches unless she moves out and not across the street. But I wouldn't push her to move out, just tell her you, like her, would rather not live with someone who is seeing someone else.
Anthony, I'd recommend not looking for another chemical solution. I don't like the sleeping pills, especially considering your past. Go run your butt off, lift weights, chase kids, play sports, and if you wake up at 2 AM do it again. Hope you get where I'm coming from.
Good luck.
I have a question. The threesome that was between my wife, her BFF and me, is that considered infidelity?
Also, I do not want a divorce. I want to reconcile and piece this relationship. I understand I can only work on me. I do exercise. The detaching is a struggle. I have lost 20 poins (was 165lbs now 145lbs). I can't eat and I have tried. This is a stress that has impacted my job, my master's program, etc.
