Rocky Road

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Adam - great points! It's that switch that the focus needs to be on me and my wants and not on the R/W.

She was very upbeat when I called last night. I asked questions bout her day, etc. Kept it short and said I wanted to talk to the kids before they started the bed time routine. Did my thing and really asked a lot of questions and was patient with the answers, validated the kids. By far the longest I've stayed on the phone with the kids while away for work (part of my 180 of being fully attentive in the moment). They passed the phone to her and I said, well, sounds like you guys are getting into your routine, I have 45 minutes or so left before I head back to the hotel. She alright babe, well I'll talk to you later tonight maybe then.

Instead of calling when I got back, I just sent her a text that said, Back at the hotel. Hope you guys had a great dinner and watched something fun before bed . She replied, I'm heading to bed too. The usual...leftovers and Monk. Good Night and I love you! I didn't reply and went to bed.

She texted this morning and said good morning, then sent me a picture of a letter from the big in state school about scholarship. She was upset that the instead school was offering less than a lot of private schools we applied to. This one was easy because I completely agree . I validated and was empathetic. We texted back and forth for 10 minutes or so, and I said...Ok, headed off to work, have a great day!

Still looking for ways to become more attractive while away. Obviously my 180s from previous business trips. anything else?? Also working on comments from the group. I looked at some YouTube stuff about detaching, etc. I ran into this book on Amazon Kindle store and got it...Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow. All about detaching with love, points out all these behaviors we do that essentially are trying to control thr people we love, etc. Great reinforcement for what we are learning here! Just read 1 chapter last night, but phenomenal. Worth the $9.59