So she sat down to talk to me today. First about our daughter and the medical stuff with her. She then indicated that at first it upset her that I left her with the kids yesterday to GAL. But she said she settled down and felt empowered later.
She then mentioned wanting to sit down and tell the children that we are separating. It sounds like she wants to stay in the house and cake eat and be roommates. Or course the other alternative is her just living across the street which is just as dumb as letting her stay here. I am waiting to talk to the L to see what my options can be.
The other issue is her parents. She will not talk to her parents but her dad keeps calling me. He is a retired divorce attorney. He is very controlling and is worried on the impact this could have on the children. I told him I can't make her change her. This is all her decision. He said that she has only had a couple IC appointments and to give her time. I don't think the IC is going to help her see the light. But he keeps telling me to eat sh*t sandwiches and just deal. However, that is not what I want.
For her to truly see the life she would be living, she needs to be out on her own or move in with the OM. See the grass is not greener on the other side. I will gladly take custody of the kids and stay in the marital home. She is the one offering to move out. I am tugged in so many directions on how or what to do in this situation. I don't know if she thinks I will be just buying everything for us and she gets to just go spend her lesser earned money on herself and such. If she lived there, you would think there is rent, buy her own groceries, pay for the water, gas, electric, etc.
I am hoping the L will shed some light on this. I asked my dr for sleeping pills. I wake up around 2 or 3 AM every night and can't sleep anymore. Thoughts, etc go through my mind. Detaching is a struggle.
