R2C - I plan on making it a great trip by connecting with my co-workers and learning how to truly focus on being in the moment. I want to continue to learn how to give someone my undivided attention (which includes not thinking bout my M and W). I also want to practice empathetic listening and validation. As for how to make myself more attractive...I have no idea!! Any help or thoughts??
Adam - Her love language is quality time and quality conversation. I hope she misses the quality conversations we have been having over the last few weeks. I don't intend on initiating any conversation, but if she does when I call the kids, I plan on being curious about her, listening, and validating. That's what's hard about this situation...the major thing she complained about was that I was never "connected and engaged" with her, especially when we carved out time to be together on dates, lunch, etc. I have done 180s on that.
Steve - I don't know man. I was feeling vulnerable, it's what was on my heart, and I thought it's what she might have wanted to hear. One of her complaints with this new sitch is that she is always the one that had to initiate ILYs, good nights, dates, conversation, etc.
She texted me once today to tell me how S11 did on his competition at school. He made it to the championship, but lost. My response was... "Awwww. Bummer! I'm super proud of him though!!" Haven't had any communication since. I intend to call the kids tonight to wish them a good night and ask about their day.
I'm definitely fearful of pulling away, but I do continue to recognize we both need space to find ourselves and make ourselves happy.
Me: 44 Her: 42 T: 22, M: 20 D:18, S:16, S:11 Sep: 6 months in 2002 Sep again: March 15, 2015 (5 months) WAW talk again: January 21, 2019
