that seems more logical time but also scares me deeply. I am only a few months post BD almost 3 now. But i know im at 0% right now . It hurts to know that it will probably be a year + easy before id ever feel comfortable dating again.
I hear you. After BD months drag by like centuries! I promise though, after a year passes you'll look back and think it went by really quickly. There's no hurry. You're 36, that's plenty of time to even start another family if you wish. I was 50 at BD and definitely wrestled with what I was going to do, that's a bit old to be starting a new family but surprisingly the young women I dated were all for it. In the end I decided I didn't want to, but that's the thing, it's YOUR choice whether to go that route or not and you've got more time than you realize.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
As for the married people here, I recommend getting happy "alone" first.
Absolutely agree.
Originally Posted by Davide
That said, I have zero regrets about my decision to date from a moral perspective. My MR was over the day my W BDd me and we separated, no matter what a piece of paper said.
Also completely agree with this. Cadet now and then will say "most people here were divorced at BD, they just didn't know it yet." Totally true. By the time I was BD'd my ex was 100% done and out the door. She even said as much over and over again, but I clung to the hope that she was "only" 99.9% done. There's the spiritual M and the legal M. The spiritual M ends well before the legal one.
