Dating before D, centralized discussion

[SoTorn]

I can see how everyone feels differently. I was with my WW for 21 years. Her cheating on me dininished all of the love I had for her. I thought deeply before I accepted the invitation from this woman. Also, its a long distance relationship so I honestly dont spend a ton of time with her.

That helps me with my boundaries. I find it very nice to have support from someone while getting through D. I didn't plan this. I was just friends with this woman. But we get along very well and have a ton of like interests. I would have still moved for D regardless. My WW is never going to change. She cant even recognize that what she did and keeps doing is wrong. So she can live her life without me. Thats better for both of us.