Dating before D, centralized discussion

[Davide]

As the vets here say, DO NOT DATE AS A WAY TO HEAL FROM YOUR BROKEN MARRIAGE. This just continues your codependent cycle. Get happy alone first, then go out and date. Preferably after D.

This 100% It has nothing to do with morality and everything to do with learning to love yourself and live independently. Using a new R to fill your holes or fix yourself simply does not work.

For those with kids, are are some sobering statistics:

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Children living in households with unrelated adults are nearly 50 times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as children living with two biological parents, according to a study of Missouri data published in the journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics in 2005.
Children living in stepfamilies or with single parents are at higher risk of physical or sexual assault than children living with two biological or adoptive parents, according to several studies co-authored by David Finkelhor, director of the University of New Hampshire's Crimes Against Children Research Center.
Girls whose parents divorce face significantly higher risk of sexual assault, whether they live with their mother or father, according to research by Robin Wilson, a family law professor at Washington and Lee University.


If you are a parent LBS, something to consider.

Steve, I fail to see how this addresses the dating question. If the MR is dead and buried, as it is in the majority of the cases here, then the LBS is left only with the two options in bold - forming a new "stepfamily" or living as a "single parent." Obviously, most of us are here to try to save the MR, and that is an admirable goal. However, most of us learn sooner or later that we have to save ourselves, and have to let go of the MR.