I knew I would stir up a hornet's nest with my comment. (Sorry for the hijack Did)
There is a certain holier-than-thou tinge to stating that everyone is free to do what they want even though it goes against your core values. You don't need to sit in judgement of others' actions in order to feel righteous in your own.
I agree that a LBS needs to heal on their own, and it is not healthy to use another person to do that. That's not a moral judgement, but rather a practical one. It's also irrelevant to the question of dating while separated.
That said, I would agree that I would proceed with caution before introducing D4 to another woman. One month is not enough time to know where a relationship is going. I am dating a woman with a three year old. We have been seeing each other for a month and there has been no talk about me spending time with the child yet (there is no father in the picture it was IVF.) She doesn't want to introduce someone who might not be there long term into his life. And that is without the complication of an ex or a divorce.
Davide, I cannot help if expressing my core values makes another feel judged. I am sure there things I do that would be against your core values. Again, I am not trying to force my core values on anyone. However, when you have children one day THEIR core values my judge you. And I believe they have that right.
Last edited by Steve85; 02/27/1906:09 PM.
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