Today a few of my best friends, and groomsmen to our wedding, (and subsequently mutual friends of the W) reached out to me to let me know that the W had texted them to ask if they'd catch up with her.
In the texts she says that I am angry because I think she's been cheating, and that she would never do that.
Other than to try clear her name, I'm not sure what her intentions are. Either way I told each of my friends that they can meet with her if they so choose. It's completely up to them if they are comfortable doing so or not.
Perhaps she's going to try play the victim card? That I was controlling, jealous of her friendships, and kicking her out on unfair grounds?
I wonder how and if she'll explain her booking the trip and keeping that a secret from me, if she mentions it at all.
Of course she won't explain her booking the trip and keeping it a secret. That isn't what WWs do. They will spin it anyway they can. My W made it seem as if her EA was insignificant. They tell themselves that the marital problems have NOTHING to do with stepping outside of the marriage. "Our marriage was already over." They lie to themselves, and thus to others. So don't expect her to come clean about anything. More than likely this is her rallying campaign to garner support.
However, Kwan, I am sure you would admit you have been far from the perfect H. So don't make it all about her either. While most WWs don't complain until they have found their new Plan A, there is some truth in what they are saying. Affairs typically are the symptom of deeper problems in the MR. So own your own bad behavior in the marriage.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
