Deja - I've been so buried in my own sitch, I haven't ventured far from my own thread. Just catching up a bit.
I can see how enticing it is to "get out there". A few weekends ago, I went to dinner with a man my friend and I met at happy hour. He was in town on business. I was very clear I wasn't anywhere near ready to date, and even though I was separated I was still married. He invited me to meet him for dinner anyway. We had a wonderful time, and talked straight through over 2 hours. He did ask a bit about my sitch, but I made it brief. Anyway, I have two points on this.
1. It felt terrific to be validated by a man, that he seemed to really enjoy my company. 2. Even after being very clear of my sitch, and not ready to date, he still met me for dinner, and we had a great time. He accepted my boundaries, and I felt glad I was clear in the beginning. (I still felt a little guilty going out, though, to be honest).
So, be clear what you want, stick to it, and the worthwhile people will come. It might take a while, because I think truly wonderful, HEALTHY, people are difficult to find (particularly at my age - in their 50s). But, as I found out a few weeks ago, they are there somewhere.
