Midlife crisis husband and separation

[Ready2Change]

Anyway, that's me. Wish I wasn't here

I wish your story wasn't so familiar , but you found a great place for support.

Everything that "works" is counter intuitive. Set him free to get him back. (if that is your long term goal)

I'm also considering at some stage asking him to regularly sleep over one night a week, because I find it really disruptive not knowing whether I will see him at the weekend (my older teen will sometimes visit his flat for a night and he brings him back, my younger teen won't visit him). Would this be too much pressure?

Do not ask him this. Too much pressure. You want him pursuing you.