OK, I read the detachment thread and hmm, really not sure about some of it. In a way I might have been too detached for a lot of our marriage I feel. Some of it definitely rang true though, maybe I need to work out which bits feel most relevant and helpful and which bits don't. The validation thread is VERY useful though, I need to do this a lot more because I tend to jump in with advice and that's not helpful. I will practice this!
Does anyone have any advice for dealing with a spouse with abandonment issues? I feel like this is a massive part of our dynamic. And finally I get how it feels to be abandoned, I have some insight into how he has been feeling for so long (not rationally, I must add, that's his issue but now I have empathy for how horrible it is)
