What was your goal when you took the woman out? Were you going out with her to have sex? Did you want to go on the date b/c you are looking for W#2? Do you see the purpose of a date is having sex?
I wonder, with you not feeling experienced in the dating field, if you came off being too forward or fast, due to you trying to imitate someone else? .
Honestly, my goal was to see if I can get some physical affection and a chance at a new R. The goal was not sex, but I am craving some sort of physical and emotional intimacy. I do not see the purpose of a date as sexual. Like my last post, it felt like I was in the process of making a special connection with this person. I genuinely am attracted to her. I think her having some sort of attraction to me is also a factor in my pacing.
I know dating especially after moving on needs to be taken slow. I have taken it too fast previously, even before my WW. I have been watching videos and reading books on proper attraction, dating like an alpha male, and accepting rejection with grace and use it as fuel to move forward. I feel better knowing that there is nothing inherently wrong with me. I tell myself I am a great guy and that my time is coming.
It seems like all of my friends who are in relationships started out dating in a manner similar like mine, but what I did not know what the pacing of their courtship was like. It's pacing that I need the most help with.
