OK so I went ahead and canceled the calendar request for the marriage counseling. My wife then emailed me and text me later on asking why I went ahead and canceled the marriage counseling without discussing with her first. I didn’t respond but then I noticed that there was a calendar request for a dental appointment for my wife and I needed to find out if I need to be there to get my daughters off the bus. When I called her I first asked about the dental appointment which was an old dental appointment at that was canceled but you kept it on the calendar.
So that she asked did you get my messages about canceling to marriage counseling. I said yeah well you told me you’re at I want separated so I decided why do I keep them at marriage counseling specially since you have another guy that you’re doing things with. She then said well I thought that was a 50-50 relationship and we make decisions together. I told her this is not a 50-50 relationship right now worried she is dictating everything about the separation be in with the guy that you want to be single and have no responsibility in the Pindingt. I then told her that having a guy show up at my house was disrespectful and I’m not gonna be disrespected anymore.
I then told her that the marriage counseling is for us to work on our marriage but the actions that she’s been taking lately I’ve been with a guy having sex with him and tell me she was separated shows me that she’s not really interested marriage counseling. She then mentioned that well and I thought maybe we could at least go there to be friendly to each other. I told her look if we’re gonna get separated or divorced and break up this family were not gonna be friends I know you want that but I’m not going to be friends.
She started crying and told her well you know the things you put me through the last year and a half and everything they’re still my mind and I don’t know if we’ll ever be able to trust each other. You don’t even communicate with me right you hear what you want to hear not what I said. I said what you said the therapist I told you that if one person is not into the matter saving America and the other is the end the marriage counseling is pointless. She goes that’s not what I said. I said that’s what he preached that I was alluding to when he said that marriage counseling only works if both parties are into it. I said well it implies that you are not interested in because you know I was interested in marriage counseling.
I didn’t told her look I called to find out if I need to be there for the girls get off the bus and it looks like it’s not need to be if you wanna continue this conversation later after you have a counselor or appointment or this weekend then we can discuss but for right now I don’t know what she really wants.
I then got home and she was laying on the bed just looking like she was all sad. I think she was trying to do a temperature check. I went into the room because my kids have a class today and we usually run together. I went in there and I asked her if the kids are going to eat before they go to the class. She said I don’t know. I asked are you going to take them the class. She said I don’t know I didn’t know what you were planning on doing. I told her I was going to go run some errands and then I was going to go meet up with some people and I pry won’t be back till after the kids go to bed. She then goes well that means you want me to take them to the class. I was like well I thought you’re going to go running. She goes I Didn’t know what your plans were. Then she said by real rude and I said what she goes bye.
I just walked out of the room after that without anything else I wasn’t really rude right thing I just was very neutral and my approach to her about going out and having her take in the class.
As I leave the house I get a text message from her saying fine Anthony this is the way were going to communicate now I’m better off just being on my own with the kids have fun.
I didn’t respond and then I get another text message from her. Stating we need to find out what we’re going to tell the kids. I don’t respond to that one. Or the first one. I didn’t get another text message a few minutes later saying That we are supposed to have a conversation tonight. And now we need to come up with the days that will take care of the kids each. I think she’s talking about the conversation about the marriage counseling and everything but I didn’t really suggest that we’re gonna talk about tonight as I can if you want to talk about it tonight or after your counseling appointment or this weekend.
