We meet in front of the restaurant and she gives me pretty long hug. We go inside and we begin to order. And I am applying all of the techniques I have learned about being an alpha male - making a decision of what I want to drink and eat. No hemming and hawing. She did not know what she wanted to drink, I ask for hot tea. She then asks for hot tea as well. We order some sushi and make some light chit chat before we address the BD she sent me.
She told me that she was forced into a previous relationship. One that she did not want and basically told me that what we're doing is following the same path. I told her that I clearly understood where she was coming from and told her that I am in a similar situation. I told her about the events the last 14 months and how in late July I hit rock bottom. I then told her about how the last 7 months I have been working on being the man she sees across from me. I further told her that I see that she is attracted to me. She agreed. I told her that it's obvious to her that I have the same feelings for her. She also agreed to that. I told her that I would love to take it slow. I am in no rush. We did some light flirting throughout the evening.
We then continue to talk about some of the highlights of my sitch. About how I plan on being fully separated by early summer, how the whole sitch went down by my WW's infidelity, and how I have moved on. I also told my date that I harbor no bad feelings for my WW. I told her that my WW was the person who changed my life and there will always be a place in my heart for her. I also told her that I am moving on and told her that I am an awesome man and someone is going to be very lucky to have me.
The date goes on until well after closing time. We leave the restaurant and decide to kill a little more time. Around the corner we go to a fancy hotel and go the lobby where there is a restaurant. She absolutely loved it and started to make tentative plans for us to come here next time we meet. We then leave the hotel and decide to call it an evening. I walk her to car and prepared to walk back to mine. She offers a lift instead to which I accept. I told her she can drop me off at the corner of the parking garage. She goes into the parking garage and parks right next to my car. We look at each other and give each other...a long hug. And we pause. And I cannot leave. I make a small attempt to kiss her but hold back, remembering what she said about being friends. I even told her that I want to do something but I know I should not. She agreed. I leave her car and we wave goodbye to each other. I drive home and text her that I made it back. The next two days we flirt lightly and she sends me a message about her job. I then remember the thing about taking it slow and decided to give her some space. Two days later, I text her a picture of me watching her favorite TV show and told her that I am ready for her quizzes when she's ready.
No words since then. Things have cooled considerably since that last message.
I don't know where to go if I should go forward. I just know that anything I do on my end would be considered pursuit.
I also know that I need to go out and meet more and date others.
I know that this was following the same path as my R to WW was. I told myself that I am not ready and I need to slow down. I just don't know how to slow down without torpedoing my chances if they haven't been already. I'm moving forward knowing that the whole thing with this person is a huge if. And I'm not dwelling on it. I am still living my life. I have more social events planned. I keep going forward.
