I am leaning towards just kicking her out. I want to understand financial side of this too with the attorney. She says she wouldn't want alimony and such if we got divorce. But then said that if I turned off her credit card access, she wouldn't be able to buy groceries for the kids and other stuff.
So I live in a state that is no fault" but allows for fault based divorces too.
willful absence of the other spouse for one year (fault ground) adultery (fault ground) extreme cruelty (fault ground) gross neglect of duty (fault ground) habitual drunkenness (fault ground) imprisonment of the other spouse (fault ground) lived separate and apart for one continuous year (no-fault ground) one spouse alleges the couple is incompatible, and the other spouse does not disagree (no-fault ground).
If you look at most of her posts on social media, they are of her in a bar, drinking, etc. I have photos of her passed out drunk, vomit in background, etc. She is also being openly adultery. I know I got the BJ from her BFF and such, but the threesome was her and the BFFs initiation and I joined in and was consensual. So not sure if I have a grounds on that. There are not many pics or things of me being drunk. I never really ever went to a bar. I stayed at home and drank. There are texts and messages from me to her, complaining at the 2AM to 4AM arrival times at home. The hangovers, etc. Also, the hitting of me is another fault ground. These can impact her financially. The main reason she has not left was because she makes very little money and I make 6 figures. She has a BA degree but wants to go get her master's. I need to stand up to her and I will after Friday (the attorney meeting). I will be taking over the MBR and making a stand on her leaving.
For the reason she wants to go across the street is to be able to help the kids get on the bus, etc and the fact that he offered to let her stay there rent free since she don't have money. I wouldn't say she flirted with the son of the guy there. The guy that lives there is in love with her (I have seen a text from him stating this - he is 30+ years older than her). He kept telling me that he wouldn't stand for what she is doing to me. He even said that he didn't want to get into the middle of it as he considered us both his best friend. He told me to contact a lawyer. Then he offers his house to her. His house is nasty and definitely wouldn't be living the best life there. I am afraid that she would think she could come and go anytime she wants. I would want it to be a legal separation so I can change the locks and prevent her from coming in.
