The debt is really not as bad as it sounds. There is a $2300 balance left on the wedding loan. This is not a joint loan and is in my name only. That is all that remains for debt.
OK well that's not bad. Your previous quote was "She's wanting us to liquidate our 401k plans to get enough money to pay everything off, wedding loan, other loans, etc" so you made it sound like you had several loans as well as other debts. But again my point is you are no longer a "team", you're not really married anymore even though a piece of paper somewhere might say so. So the loan needs to be paid off as part of the D process and you need to come up with 1150 as does your W. How she does that (cashing in 401K, borrowing, taking out a new loan) is not your concern just as how you come up with your half is not her concern or her mom's.
