(((Krull))). I really feel for you. I still have days like what you describe. I think it is terrible that she would take your son away like that. As a mom, I would never deprive my child of the only father he has ever known...it doesn’t matter that he is not your biological son. I really think you should look into what your rights are if you haven’t already. What she has done is akin to kidnapping, IMO. That aside... honestly... I think you should force yourself to go on a couple of those coffee dates. It is just coffee. It doesn’t have to be anything more. But...it may be a good reminder to you that your w’s behaviour is NOT about you. You are a good person who other people would be happy to have in their lives. Spend some time with those people. It will get better. As Adam suggested... just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will eventually get somewhere. (((HUGS)))