I’m agreeing with the sex is the perfect barometer theory. If all is good in a relationship, needs are met, I feel appreciated, cherished, etc. I’m gonna want to have more sex. If I feel resentful or if I notice decreased effort being put in to me or the relationship I’m not gonna feel as connected and I’m not gonna want sex as much. I don’t think it’s a physical difference in desire as I’m still gonna fantasize. But probably not about my partner.
You guys can increase the chemistry by making your partner feel physically desired...not just oh, it’s the morning I’ve got a h on.. but a being obviously turned on by something she did or is wearing or saying. flirting with her. Making her feel likes she’s irresistible. Building up the sexual tension throughout the day so she has to think about it let her catch you looking at cleavage or bending over etc. Irs a look of desire.
You also need to maintain chemistry by emotionally connecting with her. Or helping her. If she’s overwhelmed offer to help. It requires daily effort not just the effort you put in early in the relationship.
