Just don't steer toward a committed relationship to quickly.
This is going to be difficult. I have not a clue how to move slow. I am attracted to someone and she is (was?) to me. We had a date last Tuesday that went very well, then we chit-chatted and then silence. I would not know how to keep moving forward if I can move forward with her.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
The more work you do now, the healthier you will be and you will attract a healthier partner.
The work is always hard, but the efforts are starting to pay off. I had $350 of Amazon gift cards I was gifted this past holiday season. I was originally saving it for an iPad. I instead spent it on 2 pairs of dress boots, 2 dress belts, 2 pairs of jeans, and a sport coat. Suffice to say I am very excited to dress up and go out.
I feel good enough to start dating again, but I know that I am still not at 100%. The therapy is still being continued, I still continue to post here for feedback and guidance, and I am going to continue doing healthier, more fulfilling GAL activities.
And the healthier partner thing you mentioned has me thinking about the person who I am attracted to currently. I'll write a lengthier post about what went down later. We had a date planned, but she had to cancel twice with justifiable reason before she gave me the 'I cannot pursue anything romantic right now" speech on date day. I met her that night and we talked about the details regarding what she said. She told me why she does not want anything romantic right now and I told her about what I am going through and why I am not quite ready. We still had a great time. Now, it's been days since we last contacted each other and I don't know if it's appropriate for me to ping her or just wait to see how or if it plays out. I do know was that I was starting to move into this way too fast. I don't want that. I like her, but I need to force myself to cool it with her. Again, I just don't know how to.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
And if you W does have a change of heart, you will be able to help guide her in the proper direction.
She may have a change of heart, but I may not. I can guide her to where she needs to go, but it will not be towards reconciliation.
