Hope iis always good in my opinion. However, in your case I would temper it with realistic expectations.

Your history is short. Living together in 3 months, engaged in 3 months is fast. Then suddenly the engagement dragged on for two years? Why?

There are some really big red flags here. That maybe this was rushed into and he got cold feet. Only followed through to keep his word. Then a few months into marriage wants out. Hope, I'm just being real here, but at some point you have to look inward for your happiness. Take a breath. Your world will not end if you end up divorcing

Here is the thing. You can't decide. It takes two to make a marriage, only one to make a divorce. So understand that if he wants divorce then you will end up divorced.

So what can you do? Focus on you. First detach. Look up self differentiation in marriage. that will help explain how you lovingly detach. Then 180 on any bad behavior. Not for him, for you and your future. Most important, get a life!! Be busy. Go out and enjoy life. Meet friends for dinner. Take up new things. Be a social butterfly and meet new friends!

Give yourself a makeover. Work out. Eat right. Get a new wardrobe. Take time to do your hair and makeup. Make him take notice that you are improving. Physically, emotionally and mentally.

He'll either come around or he won't, but you'll be well on your way to moving forward..... With or with him!

Last edited by Steve85; 02/25/19 08:07 PM.
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