If DB didn't help you save you MR then yeah the side effect was helping you better yourself. If I recall you had it pretty bad from the get go, but you are here now and still moving forward. You can always come over the the dark-side (surviving the big D) there are some vets on there with really good experiences and advice to share post-D.
That's a great idea. Is that board as active as this one?
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19