You ask about patience. YES! YOu have to be patient. No question about it. Patience is the #1 requirement. You can't talk or act your in a few days or weeks, what has taken years to get into. So patience.
Second, remember the WAS is on a roller-coaster ride of emotions too. One of the things my W said to me during our sitch was that her feelings would change minute to minute. "Ask me how I feel right now, and in ten minutes ask again and it could be two completely different answers." The key is not to react. Don't react when she is angry and demands the D be moved forward. Don't react when she softens and claims that she is sorry for her anger. Detachment is NOT reacting emotionally to her craziness.
One observation, you are spending way too much time in the house. How is GAL going? You need to be GAL. Yes, you need to be a present father to your kids, but otherwise be busy busy busy. Join a gym. Go out with friends. Go to the gun range. Etc. but be busy. Those that struggle the most in their sitches are those that do GAL the worst. Don't be that guy, get busy and stay busy.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
