Here is the rule: When she texts or emails, only answer direct questions. Informational texts and emails need no response. When responding to her questions do so on YOUR time (IE not always right away), and then in as few words as possible. Yes or no questions get yes or no answers.
This helps immensely..I couldn't figure out if I should respond or not. I had already deleted the message. Good to know for yes/no/short answers.
Thanks everything! Detachment, Not Pursuing (or doing things that look like pursuing), GAL, are hard to do when you love someone and are hurting. Time heals everything. I keep reading and posting and things will get better. Not sure what I would have done without this site and by BIL who went through this. I call him to get guidance. If I didn't have this support, I would still be doing everything wrong like I did the first couple weeks. I know I will falter every once and a while but I can do this. Change me! Set up boundaries, GAL!
