A quick hello and note. Sorry, not very considerate of me with your weaning of the board.
Originally Posted by Gerda
And I said, Yes, no one can force you to see him. But I want to encourage you to see him, to know him as much as you can. It will be good for you to always know your dad, and it will not be good for you to cut him off.
That is excellent advice and an excellent path.
Originally Posted by Gerda
And then he asked me what I would do if H came back, if we divorced, would H be allowed back, etc. And I said, yes, and showed him I still was wearing my ring. He said, "Are you going to take it off when the divorce goes through?" And I said, No, I am married by God, not the city. I will still be married by God no matter what the city says. And his whole countenance of tough teen shifted. His whole face started beaming, and he actually lifted his hand for a high five. I slapped him five and he just looked so COMFORTABLE suddenly. It was so incredible, like I could see what my standing in faith meant for my son, far beyond anything that might happen with H. I saw that i was teaching my son what faith looks like, and that it brought him peace outside our difficult circumstances.
That is wonderful!
With or without the ring our children see Our inner selves we truly be.
To show compassion and forgiveness during the rift Between you and H will cause such a shift
In your children’s hearts, in that precious place Your son saw your light, from the look upon his face.
In an instant, for moment, his problems cease Such comfort coming from a feeling of peace.
Stand strong in faith, a role model for them to see Your inner self you truly be.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
