My new job is great I'm back to doing what I was before so I went right at it. We never really combined finances so separating those was easy and we split the kids informally 50/50. I went through the vengeance and hatred already ( wish I would have read this site before then) I said awful things to her I called her a W@#$re twice and we yelled and screamed at each other. ( I have never done anything like that before) We really haven't talked since then just about the kids nothing about us. I felt awful about what happened she said her bad stuff also but I am better than that. This was Dec 8th. I don't know how to let her know the door is still open if she ever changes her mind. For now I have been N/C and don't see that changing anytime soon. She is living with her first husband at the moment as she had nowhere else to go. She has cheap rent he gave her a job so she isn't feeling the loss of income from her choices. My daughters B-day is in April I plan on doing them separate but I also don't want to seem petty but she is choosing a life without me in it. So I can't do anything but give it to her.
