Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

Another update:

The W came home today and told me to call her mom because she had questions regarding the bills (Like stated her mom was helping us get straight on our bills) So I called her, and things went from bill talk to talk of moving and separation. Apparently my W was talking to her about it and trying to set a financial plan to move for both of us. She's wanting us to liquidate our 401k plans to get enough money to pay everything off, wedding loan, other loans, etc and move our separate ways. I've already thought about a loan from my 401k to move, get a cheaper vehicle, etc if and when the time comes. But I will not liquidate my 401k. That is just plain stupid to take out $18K for my future. Te MIL is getting to be to controlling of the situation and I'm not really liking it. I went there 2 weeks ago to go over our car insurance and did everything right in front of her, on speaker phone with the insurance agent and what do you know, she's saying that I did the insurance and stuff without talking to her.

My question is how should I go about trying to get the MIL out of being so involved in our sitch? I'm just not sure how to handle taking back control of the finances and let us handle how we move forward when the whole reason we got in this place was because I poorly managed them and the W got the MIL involved.