Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (3)

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AND.....tonight W and I had an argument about she expected me to help her do something I would have done before as the H. I argued back and said she fired me as the H

Adam, if you allow her to goad you into an argument, you are showing her that she controls you, that she can get to you. Don't empower her, empower yourself. You can make your point about not being the H anymore, but don't let it go any further. And one thing I learned about avoiding these arguments was to not be home. Maybe not possible as much in your sitch as mine, but try it. And for reference, I mean not be home when I knew my W was still seeing the OM daily/weekly.

the heavy box she couldn’t lift alone, she said the way I was telling her to lift was too much, I was trying to “teach” her. I was upset saying I didn’t want her to hurt herself and was coming from a good place to help.

I vote just get it for her if you're standing right there. Texas people have good manners IMO, and that's something I'd do for a woman I didn't know. Not that I'd go out of my way but if I was standing right there. You'll probably feel better that you didn't get into a fight over it too.

So yeah my response to her was trying to come from a place standing up for myself. I’m still angry she expects me to be a certain way like I have to earn my keep or I won’t get half. The way she said it was like dangling that in my face. There was more crap she said but I kept it simple due to the length of my writing alrdy.

Don't take the bait, she knows she has you b/c you care enough about her bs and lies to respond.

This whole dishwasher deal is definitely more than just a dishwasher. She's playing games, you can rise above it.

Anyways, how dem boys doing?! I wish I had a couple boys man we'd be party animals.