MLC? Confused what to do

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Anthony if she brings it up just tell her to do what she thinks is right and leave it at that. If she talks about how she feels about separation then you validate her feelings. How many times have you read the validation thread? I think it would help you immensely.

Emotion and logic don't jive too well. She is in a very emotional state, and you are too. Remember, her separating or divorcing is out of your control, and you trying to talk her out of either isn't probably just going to push her away. The best thing you can do is really stop pursuing. Do you know what pursuit is? Michele Weiner Davis lists a pursuit behaviors in Divorce Remedy. Have you bought Divorce Remedy yet and read it? I imagine you are still pursuing a lot, right? Is that working or does it seems like your W is ready to walk out the door?

You haven't responded to my two posts about the LRT, buddy you are there. You need to implement the LRT now. The single best thing I did was implement the LRT last May. It made my sitch better and it gave me the space to start healing and to settle down. You still want the magic words that will bring her back, but it's really more of an attitude and mindset change that will help you bring her back. And even then, she's a human capable of all sorts of choices, and it is up to her to come back. You need to learn to respect that too.

What's on your GAL schedule?