We made date night a pretty strong priority. W would tell me about how a former co-worker of hers and her husband didn’t make date night a priority, and it let to serious problems...and she didn’t want to end up like them.
Welp.
Basically, for the last year, since initial ILYBINILWY BD and going forward, date night hasn’t been a thing for us. I’m sure the pregnancy had at least something to do with it, maybe. And sex? Hasn’t been a thing since November—so, about 3 and a half months.
In response to pinn’s question—I would say between 7-8.
Now, W and I have had some issues with respect to sexual compatibility—she was the higher desire spouse, at least until recently. I have my own things to work through with respect to sex—for me, being more open was part of the 180’s I started a year ago. I’ve mentioned this on my thread, but in the event that W and I end up D’ing, I’ll have to think long and hard about what I want from a partner, especially about sex.
I realize I’m saying this now, and it could always change, but for me, though—I would probably want to wait until remarriage for sex, not just for a LTR, and I’m really not into hooking up / casual sex. I know that this could seriously limit my options in the dating pool, but I also realize that it could save me a lot of trouble, too (potential pregnancies, emotional / physical attachment issues, don’t want to worry about my partner being ‘clean’ in terms of disease, etc.)
I know in my thread I’ve talked about missing intimacy / sex, and I’ve mentioned before that sometimes I just really want sex and to be desired, but I’m taking that for what it was—‘pangs’ of desire that ebb and flow, and have been fading overall in general. In some respects, it’s more missing what I used to have with W (like what AS said on my thread).
If W and I end up D’ing, I would want to be really careful about who I give myself to—emotionally, and sexually. I’m sure it would be really rough and I’d probably hate it and hate myself for it at times, but honestly, I would consider waiting for remarriage if it comes down to it.
