Yes thats what i'm trying to say and how to look at it. I also did some smothering and believe my w is def attached in a different way shes avoidant type . Now does that mean I think its ok for her just to give up and walk out of our m ? absolutely not. She chose to marry me and took the same vows i did that day. I Guess they just mean different things to different people .
I am just trying to work on what i can to become better and thats definently one of them is my attachment style, being needy and clingy. Like Davide said I was in it thru thick and thin too no matter what . Thats how I operate. Maybe it is as simple as that.
