Re: Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 6

[Davide]

It is really easy to paint the WAS as the villain here, and it might be true in some cases. But I think there are come mitigating factors. As Bubbs points out who knows how we would react if we were feeling the same thing as our WASs? I also think that it is spot-on to talk about attachment styles. I question how much of my commitment was rooted in co-dependence. I had an unhealthy attachment to my W so of course I was going to be committed through thick or thin. If my attachment were healthier would my commitment be the same. I honestly don't know. And, having read too much about the pursuit/distance dynamic, I wonder how I would have reacted if she had smothered me the way I smothered her. I'm not in any way trying to blame LBSs, or shift the burden of their decision away from the WAS. But, I do think we shouldn't rush to crucify our WASs for their apparent lack of commitment.