reading on MLC was very helpful for me-

At first , finding out about OW is very painful
once processed, it becomes less so-

usually the R don't last and if they do last as my XH R to OW-
they become horrible for both parties

keep working on you-

all things will pass

married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow