Those are big updates! It's kind of amazing that your wife said those things. Does she know you're dating? Maybe that's what made reality set in? Or the fact that you're driving the divorce forward... I always wish couples could reconcile but in your case I can see how an attempt at reconciling could end up creating more pain and turmoil for you. Right now you're on a positive trajectory and your wife's words are too late. It sounds like you're wise enough now to assess her level of sincerity and to detect her own lack of personal growth. It seems you've learned a lot and you're on the right track. The only thing to remember is that there are risks with your future partner as well, so what have you learned from this experience with your wife to make a better choice? That's a question I've been asking myself.
