Rocky Road

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Question for all, then a brief update.

I go out of town for 4 days next week for work. How should I handle this with W? Some brief points from my sitch:
-3 to 4 weeks ago, W broke down and said she feels like we can't connect anymore
-said didn't know if we were compatible, we had different styles
-said I never initiated and conversation, saying ILY, dates, and when on dates, don't connect
-she pulled away physically and conversationally
-she said she wants to work on the marriage, but had lost hope
-over the last 4 weeks, i have DBed hard, detached, GAL, 180s (especially on the way I listen and validate)
-we talk all the time now (she initiates 50%), everything is positive, still no affection
-Last week, W said she was more hopeful about M

I'm fearful that if I don't initiate some texting, calling, etc. while out of town, it'll almost be like I'm going dark. I also don't want to seems needy or like I'm checking in on her. Obviously I'll have to call her phone at night to talk with youngest S (I typically call the kids every night when I'm out of town).

Ok, update isn't really an update... got everyone caught up above. We enjoyed a nice family dinner last night and watched our favorite TV show. Up this morning and everyone is in good spirits. Sometimes I just get overwhelmed with the feeling of wanting to hug her from behind in the kitchen or tell her I'm sorry I wasn't an engaged H before this. Remaining detached (which feels good 80% of the time) and give her space/time.

Thanks all!