I don't no if I am better off with not seeing her. But I really didn't get any spew except for when I said I wouldn't help with the kids so she could travel and go see her new man in the beginning of all of this. That was the big blow up for us. Then silence ! She checked out at first with the kids but now has seemed to come back to being a mom thank god . But I realize this could change on a dime and without notice. I need to be strong for my kids and myself and act like she is never coming back.