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[Jac12]

So we had our sons bday tonight. My W came over after work and we had a nice dinner that I cooked. She complimented me on the taste and we generally had a nice evening.

She also told me a little about what she talked about with her therapist - the 3 big things being 1) Us 2) Her dad's brain cancer and 3) her sexual assault in high school. She thinks the therapist understands her and that it will help. She also discussed a little about the possibility of postpartum depression but thinks they'll get into that more next session..

Near the end of the evening I asked her where I could be better as a partner. Her response was that I was too rigid and then had a small laugh together (she's right and it's something I'm working on). I validated her comments as best I could and made a point to stop what I was doing and look at her whenever we were talking.

She said 2 interesting things:

1) Upon arriving I asked if she'd like a drink. Poured her glass of wine and she said she felt relaxed...oddly relaxed.

2) She mentioned she was watching a Netflix series on "The Art of Tidying Up" (she knows she's a bit messy) and she mentioned that if she moved back in she needed to be better at that.

All in all it was a nice enough evening...some small improvements I think but I won't put too much stock into it and I'll keep on doing my thing.

I did tell her that if she needed to talk about anything she could talk to me with no judgment, just listening.

Lastly, she's been out for 3 weeks and she mentioned it felt like it was way longer than that. Not sure how to take that - or I guess the answer is don't take it for anything