MLC? Confused what to do

[SoTorn]

You need to take her off of your credit cards now. Its ok to separate bank accounts. I dont know about your state but if its community property you can put half of whats in savings in her name.

I got my own bank account when I confirmed my WW was having an A.

I agree, unless you are ready for separation or divorce, dont set that boundary. You could set a boundary that you wont be talking to her at all if she continues to mistreat you or talk about OM.