This is a joint account that you both contribute to? Regarding the $200 FitBit, I would not say that at first glance this is cause for any pushback. She earns, she spends. I would caution against coming down on the side of "controlling" if this comes up in conversation.
That being said, the $1,000 being "siphoned" is certainly unusual and is cause for discussion.
I'm not saying your W should or should not be doing anything specific with her money - I don't intend to imply or state any opinion on what is or isn't happening. I just wish to get a clearer idea of what would be considered "normal" or "within her rights" in your own dynamic.
I say this because I've read a lot of sitches where one spouse tried to tighten the purse strings too much and used it for control. Until you hear otherwise, I might advise that you seek clarification from her - not accuse her of anything. Until, that is, she says something insane. Just my 2 cents.
