Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (3)

[Adam04]

Btw, things like her going out for dinner with unknown people, I can’t control that nor am I letting that affect me. She told me in advance about it and we planned for her to be out. Wasn’t passive aggressive there.

I had read posts regarding children and some of these agreements with the WAS where they aren’t honoring agreements so that was in the back of my mind. That was my fault. Also I thought about having other men in my home helping to fix stuff I can take care of. I do find that disrespectful. If I am not the one who asked them or hired them and we agreed to it then yeah it bothered me. I have to drop this male bravado crap. She’s free to ask for help. But don’t ask other people and then expect me to have no feelings about it. The point is the same with going out as a family. I have some dignity and self respect but she clearly does not take that into account. That’s why they think it’s still okay to ask you to play family when they’re the one hurting you and feeling like everything is ok.

If I’m wrong here help me to see it differently.