Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (3)

[Adam04]

FS,

Thank you for helping me to see through this. You are right in that it will happen and how I feel then will be up in the air. There is a lot to unpack in that though.

The thing is the other night she came home from a dinner out with her coworkers. I had fed, bathe, and put the boys to sleep. She got home and wanted me to sign some papers on the house which I did so she lingered in the study to tell me she had the realtors H look at the dishwasher and he said motor blown. She said her Sisters fiancé was coming to confirm and see about replacing it. I don’t want to make this a long rant but we both, W and I, clearly agreed several times we were not going to rely on friends or family to help us from a year ago and we both agreed not to bother anyone. We could afford to replace the dishwasher and hire painters. Well she went against this. She most likely was drinking that night and asked me why I made this puzzling face when she told me the fiancé was coming to double check that the motor was blown. I told her I had known this, another guys said it was so it didn’t make sense we had a 3rd person to say the same thing and I asked her if she looked for the replacement parts. She said she did but couldn’t find anything so the parts could be obsolete. I told her okay so if that’s the case why have someone try to fix it and are we sure it would work if we bought the parts which atm we don’t know are available. She said she didn’t know and I told her this is why I had the look of questioning. She spent several minutes saying they offered to help during a conversation they had. She was lying about that but I didn’t expose the lie. She left and I looked up the parts and later told her the price and that’s when she said I should have done that in the beginning instead of draggging it out. I was mad because I was trying to help but she expected me to do this. Anyways, she also said when I helped her move the boxes to the garage, the heavy box she couldn’t lift alone, she said the way I was telling her to lift was too much, I was trying to “teach” her. I was upset saying I didn’t want her to hurt herself and was coming from a good place to help.

So yeah my response to her was trying to come from a place standing up for myself. I’m still angry she expects me to be a certain way like I have to earn my keep or I won’t get half. The way she said it was like dangling that in my face. There was more crap she said but I kept it simple due to the length of my writing alrdy.

Still, I don’t want to get dragged down to that level and I should have bowed out. she reneged on an agreement, Just bumps from the reminder that I can’t believe or trust her. Nothing new