I need to set up boundaries especially about the OM. I have been reading a lot on boundaries, detachment, etc. I am having trouble coming up with them. I like the idea of saying, "I will not live in an open marriage" but what is the result if it continues. Not really the ultimatum or punishment, I guess but what do I say if that line gets crossed again.
Also, when she came to me to discuss my IC, she then started talking about the OM. Do I just say that I don't want to talk about the OM as it is disrespectful to me and the family and end the discussion?
She emailed me earlier saying that she wanted us to take the kids out to dinner. She also mentioned going out tomorrow night and having some special alone time with our son while the girls have a birthday party.
I just responded that if she wanted to take the kids out to dinner, that is fine. HOwever, I don't think it would be productive for both of us to be there at this time.
She replied alright and you are probably right. SHe then texted me later saying that she will be going out with her friends tonight and if I want to do something tomorrow night, I can make plans. I was planning on going out tonight but I can rearrange them to tomorrow with more sleep to do it so I am ok with that. However, I never responded back to her as I don't see a need to respond.
Just want to make sure I am handling this correctly on the dos and don'ts...if it isn't a question or whatever, I don't answer.
