MLC? Confused what to do

[SoTorn]

Dont consider it a good or bad thing when she fills the void with hate or temp checks. Just make sure you react accordingly. Keep cool and calm. Do not react at all. You need to get to the point where you are indifferent. You meed to get to the point where her actions do not affect you. Get to where you are in full control of your emotions and making decisions based on how they impact you. Who cares how she acts or reacts? It doesnt matter.

She doesnt control you. You do not control her. Your goal now is to better yourself. Be the best version of yourself for yourself.

Drop any expectations you have for your marriage and for her. Focus on yourself. You will feel better and it will show. She may or may not remain your wife. Either way you will be happy and content with yourself.

Im to the point where my WW is coming in my room and telling me she is sorry and that I dont need to move out if I dont want to. I reacted with "ok, im moving out".

Shes trying to see if she can manipulate me. Since I didnt react to the tears she got hateful and threatening. I still didnt react. So now shes back to being nice. Once you truly detach and reign in your emotions you will have an entirely new perspective. Then you can make a decision on whats best for you without worrying about her. You got this. Follow the rules here. Read everything ten times. Get some books.