Thanks Steve! I reread your response to my original post twice a day...once in the morning and once I get home from work. It is extremely helpful. Honestly, I seem to vacillate between being detached and content with me and feeling and anxious and overwhelmed in a 2-3 hour period. I am determined if anything. I continue to be very upbeat, show gratitude, validate, and just listen with no “trying to help”. You could tell she was a little thrown off by this after 2-3 days, but las few days, she validates me, and we seems to share “emotion” though talking. Like the running piece yesterday. And today, her parent accepted an offer on their house and I was very excited for them and said it was great news. She had a big smile on her face and said, I know right! It really is good for them. I said, “I’m so happy for you guys and see that you are happy too! That’s awesome. Then left it there and went up to shower . BTW, before our recent bomb, we used to ask each other to shower together whenever one of us was heading up.
I’ll keep plugging, focusing on me, my happiness, detaching, and learning/reading on how to better communicate in relationships!
Awesome man. You've got this. The roller-coaster is real. Don't run from it, just deal with the emotions. The content phases will eventually get longer and the desperate phases shorter, over time.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
. BTW, before our recent bomb, we used to ask each other to shower together whenever one of us was heading up. 