I am trying to detach but it is hard, really hard. This whole thing the past 3 weeks has been a nightmare that I am just trying to wake up from. I don't know how to set boundaries. I don't want a divorce. I don't want to move out as she is the one deciding to be with this guy and I am trying to be a better changed person. She says that this isn't about me or the OM. If she had her way, she would live alone and work on "our relationship". If I kick her out or the house, she goes to the OM more than likely. Another reason is the three children. She says she wants to try and work it out for the children. She just keeps saying she don't think it will work but she is willing to try. I know, believe nothing they say and 50% of what they do. I don't know. I have another IC on Monday and she has one tonight. See how those go and continue to work on myself via IC.
