MLC? Confused what to do

[ovrrnbw]

Hey Anthony,

a lot of craziness goes on in these situations, as you well know. Try to be calm, I'd advise you to keep reading those links on page 1. You need to try to set your emotions aside for now and think logically.

She is so upset of me "snooping" and thinks it is worse than her leaving me in the middle of a date.

Yeaaaa that's a negative, ghostrider. But you guys don't need to be comparing misdeeds and hurt caused. You both have done enough. Stop the bleeding!

She then brought up her BFF and about that stuff.

Yea, she has a point with this stuff. You have to listen, validate, and understand that it probably did/does hurt her.

Also, I applaud you for being open and honest enough to post this here.

She said that there are things she don't like about the OM but she loves him. If she was financially able to, she would move out and then try to work on our marriage.

This is your W. You should be pissed, you should not listen to this kind of talk, you should ask her to leave the house. It's BS that you have to share a house with your W who is in love with someone but only stays in the house b/c she needs your money. And how, pray tell, does a W "work on her marriage" when she is staying with an OM? JFC.

Don't worry about the social media, stay off of it. You know she's cheated, so stop snooping - there's nothing more to be learned.

Stop talking to her parents, they're ultimately on her side. Do they know you slept with someone else too? You need to work on detaching, need to not let everything she says affect you. If she wanted to work on it she'd dump the OM and own up to her crap but she's not there yet. Keep posting buddy and think about what we're saying. Good luck.