Glad I came downstairs and hit the forum. Just needed to get that out. I ultimately went back to the MBR and fell asleep. Still tossed and turned, but glad I didn't do anything stupid. I use my iPad to take notes, read a daily check list and affirmation I set up last week, and read Sandi's rule and the detachment page. Helps me get in the right frame of mind. We had some quality conversation this morning, but I didn't linger too long. Started some laundry and took the boys to school. We I came home, she was working on a photo project for D's high school graduation. We had a good laugh at some cute pictures, but I moved on.
I also started reading Seven Secrets to Healthy, Happy Relationships. It's very good and has some excellent principles that echo the DB process. First one is Self Love and start with you. Second one is Freedom, which is detachment/differentiation in relationships. That's a scary one, but give you excellent feedback on how it can make a relationship strong and happy. The third one is Awareness. It really is being aware of all the stories we tell ourselves in our heads that lead to anxiety, shame, and insecurities in our relationships (whether you are happily married or DBing). That's where I am in the book. Its a very good supplement to DB and DR. Just wanted to pass that along and hope everyone is having a good day.
Me: 44 Her: 42 T: 22, M: 20 D:18, S:16, S:11 Sep: 6 months in 2002 Sep again: March 15, 2015 (5 months) WAW talk again: January 21, 2019
