Hey Folks: Well, not in Seattle...it just sounded good. Anyway, W comes to bed last night w/o a shirt on. The last time she did this was on a cruise in December 2003, and I started touching her and she got all offended. Last night, however, I did not touch her, because, as you may know, I'm in my "no pressure for 6 months" phase. I did ask her why she was not wearing a shirt, and she responded, "why are you wearing a shirt?" Understand, it was not said as an invitation for me to take my shirt off. It was said with an edge of impatience to it, like, "none of your damn business." I rolled over and went to sleep. Well, honestly, I didn't sleep much. I kept hearing these voices in two-part harmony sing-saying, "Hairdog, oh Hairdog. We're W's boobs and we're free! No shirt between us and you. You could reach over and play with us...she's asleep and probably won't even wake up. We're soft and velvety to the touch! Tasty, too!" But I didn't listen to them. They are like the Sirens who tempted Odysseus. I knew if I listened to them I would 1) wake her up and get yelled at; or 2) not wake her up and feel guilty about it, because I remember what Aquarian went through with Glenn. So, I'd drift off, then wake up and listen to the song, then go back to sleep. By the time the alarm went off, my W had put on a shirt (kinda cold last night) and the voices were muffled.
I want to tell her to not do that again unless she wants me to touch her, but that sounds really controlling to me. Yet, I know that she knows how I feel about this, as we have argued about it in the past (most recently on that cruise).
I agree Harry... she was either hot or testing you. Maybe next time you can offer a back rub... lightly tickling her if that will help cool her down. Try to keep in mind that she wants you to love HER, not her boobs... they're just part of the package!
Hairdog, I told you a couple weeks ago that she is testing you; Pam and I are in total agreement here! She tested you with the.....oh shucks what was it...coming back to bed for "cuddling"?
At any rate, this was another test. I think that, given the dynamic you have set up in your house, she both hates the sexual attention but also in a weird way, relies on it. It is "hairdog" to her. When you take that away, she is no longer sure of the rules around there and no longer as certain of your love.
I think you did the RIGHT thing by playing it cool and 'passing' the test. She is trying to bait you into being the old Hairdoggie. Hang in there and wait her out. I am anxious to see if she brings it up and what she has to say about your experiment.
By the way, for all you folks who don't live in MO, it is freakin cold here these days (very uncharacteristic for this time of year) and so I personally find it odd that she picked last night to feel hot. I think she's horny but her pride won't let her admit it!!!!!!! So she's trying to bait HD into starting something and then she can blame it on him and make him out to be a sex crazed bastard. Which he is.
Thank you, folks. I'm glad I didn't "fail" the test, but I'm sure you all agree that it totally sucks that I am being "tested" at all. I especially respect your view, Pam, as I know you've been "there" and agree that life is full of rude awakenings.
Pam, I totally forgot about his confidobics! Hairdog, how's that going? I think that the combination of his experiment and the confidobics have to have her wondering just who the heck this guy is who is sharing her home!
I'm also in MO Hairdog and honeypot... and would have to agree that with the temps getting into the 30's the past couple of nights, it's pretty odd to come to bed "hot". Sounds like a test and sounds like you passed.
It WAS cold last night. We even had a fire in the fireplace. I was also slow-cooking a pork roast outside, and had to add charcoal a couple of times to keep the heat up.
Confidobics is going okay...just have to watch the line of behaving like a selfish a-hole, and being a push-over. She is still doing her own laundry, and is doing without her flavored coffee on the weekend. I'm thinking that this is all related to the "differentiation" in PM. I am just trying to get and to stay "de-fused" from her.
As for what she is thinking...who the heck ever knows what the opposite sex is thinking about?
